But I have to be creative with myself. My well intended schedules easily become paper art for my refrigerator. And my online calendar can get so junked up I can't figure out what's important and what's not. But I find ways to keep myself focused.
I made Little Bear a sticker chart a few days ago.
So, I made
And it's working!
It goes like this...Mother wants child to be independent and get into good habits. Child is motivated to be independent by praise and stickers. Mother makes a sticker chart for child. Child reminds mother to teach him good habits and how to be independent because he wants a sticker. Mother, after being reminded, helps child accomplish items on the sticker chart. Child is happy to receive praise and stickers. Mother is happy to help child. Mother and child get in a routine of child being independent and establish habits. The sticker chart becomes irrevelant. Repeat with new goals.
An example of this in my own life is Little Bear's sticker chart. This sticker chart lists a few tasks that I want Little Bear to do more of each day - things like brushing his teeth, trying on the potty, putting his clothes on and off independently.
After desperately trying to remember to remind Little Bear to do these things hroughout the day, I finally decided to make a chart, which I have placed on his door, that will help me remember the 5 (broken down into 8 individual) things I want to help him do daily. These are things that are not already in our daily routine but things I wish were.
After a few days, I found that I didn't need the sticker chart anymore to help me remember to do these things. The goal of the sticker chart was help us make new habits, which it did. Whether or not we keep the sticker chart will really be whether or not Little Bear continues to want to do it. Once he gets bored, I'm fine. All I wanted was to train myself.
However, Little Bear has been trained too. At first, I needed the sticker to motivate him. Now, he just knows that's what I expect. No longer do I put his clothes on for him. Now, he does it himself out of habit. We are almost there with brushing his teeth. And we'll continue working on the potty training.
Once we have accomplished placing all five items in our routine, I will move to new goals. It's too bad a need a sticker chart to help me. But as a mother of two toddlers, where no day is exactly like the other, I reason...whatever works, do it!